I’ve been quite emotional about this, I can’t lie. It is SO true that time flies, whether it’s good or bad you can’t slow it down and yes, hindsight is a wonderful thing. My first born, first love, turns 18years old. So, as a note to me and maybe him, (he may read it one day), I was going to write 18 things about O…..
But decided that maybe wasn’t enough. I could also go on about autism, diagnosis, milestones, my mistakes, how big and wide your feet are, how handsome you are, your isms, obsessions, our ups and downs, staying true to yourself, your kind soul, how hard mothering can be, what I have learned. But the crux of story that is you so far is…
It’s Mental Health Awareness this week (I’m sure many of you know) and this is something I have experienced since I was 20years old.
The above is so important, kind of obvious, but a struggle when you have children I think. The guilt sets in, or just finding the time to do something for yourself is a challenge. But in reality, why should you feel guilty if it means you have that little bit of breathing space to have all those feel good bugs from exercise (or whatever you choose) to keep you from snapping at your children or someone or feeling bad about yourself.
SIX is a new modern maternity British underwear brand launching this month. Founder Kate has had many years experience in the fashion industry and like many of us found there was a HUGE gap in the market when it comes to good maternity underwear, so SIX was born.
There are no labels in the garments, all care instructions are printed directly on to the fabric for comfort. Everything is made in Portugal, All fabrics are Premium quality Italian Jersey and the Laces are all French Leavers Lace.
The range is minimal and clean in design, and prices range from £27-£72 reasonable for something you wear every day pre and post pregnancy. I’ve always liked underwear, and the only other maternity I have liked is Storq which isn’t available in the UK. Looking forward to buying something from this new brand when it’s released.
Nursing bras are notorious for being ugly things a breast feeding mother has to wear, day in day out. Horrible design, clips, unattractive, chunky and old fashioned on the whole. Admittedly ladies need that extra support when full of milk, and big boobed mama’s more so, but there should be more on offer that doesn’t cost a fortune. It is true that it makes you feel more confident, comfortable and happy if you are wearing nice underwear.
This Storq nursing bra is very simple, no fuss, even fairly boring but it isn’t chunky and unattractive. It doesn’t have clips, just pull to the side access, made in super soft fabric and extra flexible when your cup size changes or boobs are super full.
Maybe not ideal for those that need extra support for the bigger chest, but if you don’t we highly recommend these.
So today was GCSE results day for many including my first born. It has been full of mixed emotions to say the least. I didn’t really know what to expect when he opened his envelope, and I’m not sure if he did either. O’s facial expressions are hard to read at the best of times, a typical ASD trait and he is pretty positive and optimistic about everything, even when things haven’t gone according to plan sometimes.
O isn’t academic and I didn’t want for A*’s. What I did want was for him to do his best and get some results for his confidence and self esteem, and know he is as good as anybody else he stands next to. It can be hard to do when you have a diagnosed label and statement in education, where support is a constant fight and struggle when you appear to be ok and ‘making progress’.
O got some GCSE’s, something I didn’t know if it was possible 14yrs ago. I spent a lot of today going to the loo to hide my tears that kept pouring out. Some from relief, some from pride, a lot from flash backs of the last 16yrs. God, motherhood is hard sometimes. Emotionally exhausting, lonely, rewarding, full of love and the best thing I have ever done, warts and all (and there are a lot of those).
The rest of the day has been lunching out and treats.
He has what he needs to go to the college he chose for the next 3yrs. I’m not sure what his best is or could have been, all I know is that he got what he needed and I’m proud and happy for him. I hope he feels that way too.